Most Teachers and almost everything spiritual TELLS us to maintain CELIBACY -- or Abstinence from Sex, including sexual thoughts.  For many centuries, RELIGION has been promoting Brahmacharya/ Celibacy / Abstinence from Sex as the ONLY way to reach GOD or touch the Heights of Enlightenment in the spiritual path. 
 

Till now, you have been thinking that GURUs and Teachers HAVE mastered to be INERT of their sex thoughts, and hence they have become PURE and NEAR to GOD. And that all the while, you have been failing your GURU!  But, if you would see, EVERY GURU, most of those involved in spritual or religious teachings, most of those who seem to be campaigning CELIBECY, CONSERVING, etc had themselves been seen to be in controversy, involved in one or other form of sexual-abuse !!! Some are even Headline News !!  It is a fact that Indian Sadhu- Sanyasis wear SAFFRON to indicate that they have over-come their SEX-energy Demands, which -- in esoteric science, is of Orange/Saffron Color. It is also similar for some other religious Preachers wearing WHITE, denoting PURITY. But, one can never--- unless medically otherwise, NO Normal PERSON, male or female could be FRIGID ... sexually inert! ... Check with any medical professional.

Do not Fool or get fooled with TANTRA.

 Don't BLUFF to yourself anymore! There is no truth in CONSERVING --sublimating-- suppressing--Ignoring--and finally turning INERT of SEX! You could never LEARN to be INERT. You could --- however, train yourself to TRANSFORM that ENERGY. To CHANNEL that energy to any other form! Tantra HELPS.